Ignorance, time, routine, work obligations, children at home…🏡 There are infinite reasons why passion as a couple can decrease or fade, a subject that according to Dr. Joan You, clinical psychologist at Poerkan , is one of the most frequent reasons in your consultation and that it is important to explore. “To talk about passion as a couple, it is important to take into account the concept of ‘passion’, which is thought of as the intense desire to explore, touch, have sexual relationships, where fantasizing and worrying about the possibility of seeing the person stimulate sensuality and desire”, affirms the expert, with a master’s degree in sexual and reproductive health.
Is it normal for the passion in a couple to decrease? ⁉️According to an article in Mundo Psicólogos, scientific research indicates that human beings are not biologically made to have a partner for life:😯 “this does not mean that we cannot do it, however it is completely normal for passion to go diminishing”. 👫 The publication also suggests that this can happen due to oxytocin, which acts once the stage of falling in love is crossed and the relationship is getting stronger, since it is the hormone that reinforces that loving bond between the two and at the same time causes the passion to decrease .
However, in addition to these more scientific factors, Dr. Joan You assures that: “passion fades many times due to the excessive intentional pursuit of constant passion, due to not having clear basic concepts around this topic, even We can find people who change partners multiple times without realizing that what is looking outside is deep inside. In the consultation, it is very often seen how people are not able to identify the different stages of life as a couple, such as falling in love, ”she explains.
Do you feel that your relationship is no longer the same and that the passion as a couple is dying out?💔 Within the framework of Valentine’s Day, also called Valentine’s Day, and with the help of Joan You, clinical psychologist, master’s degree in sexology : sexual education and sexological advice, we share seven golden keys to fuel passion with that being you love.💕
1. HAVE AN ASSERTIVE COMMUNICATION💬
Seek to have an assertive conversation with your partner in which they can talk about how they feel at this moment, what they like, what they need, what they need… 🗣️and this also includes sex, because generally, when we talk of what we like in bed, we are few clear or precise. “I believe that a basic tool that we have is often ignored, and that is being able to speak, that is, if there is assertive communication, perhaps those multiple factors that put up a barrier to passion could be handled positively”, recommends Aguirre.
2. SEEK PROFESSIONAL ADVICE 👨🏻⚕️
If you don’t know how to improve communication as a couple, you or he or she is going through deeper problems or is having difficulty reviving the passion, it is important to seek out an expert.👨🏻⚕️ Going to a professional is a healthy way to nurture your relationship.
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3. BE MORE DETAILED 🎁
When was the last time you had a romantic gesture with your partner?🤔 In the midst of the rush of the day, you may ‘forget’ to express your feelings towards that person or be affectionate, missing the opportunity to nurture your relationship in a wonderful way .
If it’s been a while since you had a detail with him or her, let this be the opportunity to do it again.👌 Remember that details are not limited to physical or expensive objects, but more expressions of the heart such as:
A loving note on the nightstand
a surprise breakfast
an erotic massage
A call in the middle of the day to find out how she is and to tell her how much you love her
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4. ORGANIZE A SEXUAL ENCOUNTER ❤️
It’s normal for couples to stop seducing each other over time and sex becomes mechanical in the relationship. 🌈 Any ideas? Prepare the atmosphere with music and pleasant scents, surprise your partner with erotic massages and dare to try a series of different positions. They may also consider using sex toys or enjoying some delicious chocolate covered strawberries.
5. WORK THE EMOTIONAL CONNECTION 👫
One of the main reasons why passion decreases has to do with the lack of connection with the couple and we are not referring only to the intimate disconnection, but also to the emotional one. 😣 It’s important that you try to connect with him or her again. As? Dedicate quality time to him, learn to listen, look into his eyes again…
6. INCREASES PHYSICAL CONTACT ⬆️
Do you remember those days when you walked together holding hands? 🤝Physical contact, which includes hugs, kisses, caresses, pampering… 💕 They are essential for a relationship, not only to rekindle passion as a couple, but to express feelings, give peace of mind, love…
7. HAVE FUN TOGETHER!🥳
You may not find much of a relationship between fun, passion, and sex, but these concepts are more closely linked than you might imagine, since having fun and playing as a couple is a relationship vitamin 💊 and, therefore, a key to rekindling the flame of love . The invitation is to make new plans together, try different things (includes gastronomy, sexual positions, hobbies…), among others. At the Poerkan we think of you!