Very young, we all receive messages and experiences from those around us about our body, our pleasure, our nakedness and our sensations.

You may think this is irrelevant, but they are formative factors about how we experience and approach our relationships and sex when we are adults.

In order to cultivate passion and desire, it is important to take into account the stories we have received about our gender, sex and our sexuality.

Start a new page in your journal and write down your first thoughts, memories and associations as you explore these questions:

1. What were the first messages you received about sex?
Scan your memory and analyze everything that was talked about, seen and witnessed during your childhood. Was sex something you should be afraid of or avoided? For example, many women were warned that sex always ended in pregnancy.

Was sex seen as a predatory act from which you could be a victim rather than something you might wish for? Was your body a source of shame? For example, "that skirt is too short."

Or maybe sex was seen as part of a loving exchange. When you saw your parents laughing, holding hands and kissing, did you feel ashamed or embarrassed? Or did you simply and simply learn that it was a biological function?

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2. What have you done with these messages?
Complete the following sentences:
"Good girls do not ..."
"A real man does not ..."
"A lady should ..."
"You can only have sex when ..."
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3. To what extent have these messages affected you?
Emily Nagoski writes about how we all have accelerators and brakes during sex - things that inhibit or incite us. Accelerators can include scents, visual cues or any kind of touch. Brakes include fear of being discovered, not feeling sexy or attractive or worrying about getting an STD. What are your accelerators and your brakes?

4. Was sex central or peripheral in your family life?
Frequently most people respond that sex was a topic that was never discussed. But when we look further, once you catalog all the different ways in which the topic of sex was avoided or negatively emphasized, there are only very few who still believe that the subject of sex was peripheral. Ironically, issues that are not spoken grow inevitably. Explore this question and find out what it was like for you.

5. Has your sex life reinforced or debated the messages you received when you were a child?
Have you encountered a totally different sex world or have your childhood beliefs been confirmed? Think retrospectively about your recent and past experiences. Examine how your sexual foundations of the past have molded you, introduced you and opened you to all the possibilities you have experienced.

Finally choose a sexual message that you have received and want to change. What myth would you like to deny? Identifying it you can renew your sexual life to 100%.